Raising children

Raising children could be a tough responsibility but it could usher in so much joy in the long run. 

When raising children there are some artistic ways a parent could critique a child without diminishing their self esteem. 

In correcting children, it is wise to focus on the wrong action done and its negative consequences over putting down their entire personality. In this way a child would grow up whole without a poor self-esteem. 

A child may be doing poorly in a particular area but that doesn’t erode their area of strength. When correcting children, try as much as possible to be;

🎈Specific: Be intentional in outlining clearly the negative action which the child has done. After doing this, you can point out the negative consequences  and also state the disciplinary measures you would undertake if there’s a reoccurrence of the action. 

🎈Offer a Solution: Every problem usually has a solution and problems usually gravitate towards their solutions. You have the solution to almost every challenge that your child faces. It could be internal or external but it is always true that you have the solution. In correcting a child it is important that you provide an achievable solution to the negative action undertaken. 

🎈Be present: In correcting a child, it is very important that you must be psychologically, and physically present during the process. 

🎈Be sensitive: The action of the child may be a very terrible one, but try to hold back curses and abusive words. During childhood, most of a child’s negative and positive thought pattern is being formed. Do not use withering words that could pose a problem to their self-esteem. 

Finally, some of the problems posed by teenagers to their parents is as a result of critiquing a child’s innate personality over the wrong actions of the child. In turn this would create a circle of resentment, bitterness, defensiveness and distance.