When I become 30

Getting married is beautiful but doing it right is also very essential to how valuable you would be deemed in the long run. An average man would not marry a woman for any reason apart from love and her long term impact on his life. 80% of men would commit to women they love or women who add value to their lives.

Note this, a man not loving you is not an advantage to them or a disadvantage to you. This reality may be sad and almost unchangeable as he would be faithful and commit to who he loves. 

I’ve seen young women so desperate to be married that they undertake unhealthy measures to get a man commit to them. In my years alive, I haven’t seen any meaningful relationship emanate from this kind of demeaning pursuit.

 Based on biblical standards, a man would pursue a woman as Jacob pursued Racheal. If you are familiar with this story, you would realize that Leah the elder sister of Racheal was not esteemed highly because she was a treasure in the hands of the wrong person. Leah wouldn’t have been given out in that manner because a woman is mostly valued by a man in his pursuit of her. 

You may say “Minka  times has changed, a woman could possibly chase a man and win his attention”. I remain steadfast to my word, 10% of the entire 100% of men would be suspicious of a woman who does the chase. Another 80% of men would decline and only 10% of men tagged the woke men would not have a problem with her confidence. 

All the same, marriage is beautiful but doing it the right way is really what matters.