What is your love language??

 

“American ladies love attention from their men”, says my friend, Jamie, who is married to a beautiful black American woman. 

This got me thinking, is love language cultural, racial or subjective in its application? If American women love attention, what then is the love language of Nigerian or South African ladies? 

I would not dispute Jamie’s argument but I think love language is subjective and not a definition of one’s color, culture, tradition, race or class. Black women may live under the same social realities, but that doesn’t erase their individuality. Asian ladies may have grown up speaking their indigenous  language but some of them are fluent in English. Russians are reserved but there are Russian comedians. Yes! Almost everything is subjective. 

So, when it comes to understanding your partner’s love language, it is not a definition of class, color or race. Although this may typically influence their perceptions, really loving a person is built on understanding their personal standards and how they should be loved. 

Do not waste your time buying gifts for a person whose love language is “attention”. Just getting attracted to a person isn’t all there is to loving, you should understand the symmetries of their personalities and what real love entails to them. If you want to know the love language of your partner, it is necessary you ask questions and not conclude based on your ideas. So many relationships would have been better, if the knowledge of love language is utilized. 

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